ॆ The Strength Switch: How The New Science of Strength-Based Parenting Can Help Your Child and Your Teen to Flourish hare फ़ ePUB By Lea Waters গ

ॆ The Strength Switch: How The New Science of Strength-Based Parenting Can Help Your Child and Your Teen to Flourish hare फ़ ePUB By Lea Waters গ Martin Seligman is widely known as a leading authority on positive psychology, a branch of psychology that scientifically studies how positive emotions, strengths, and virtues help us thrive I had met Marty when he came to Australia to establish a positive psychology approach at a school near the University of Melbourne, where I work I had just transferred to the Melbourne Graduate School of Education from the School of Business and Economics, where as an organizational psychologist Id been studying and consulting for organizations on integrating positive psychology into the workplace, particularly on how focusing on strengths as opposed to weaknesses could improve performance Basically, Id swapped offices for classrooms, senior execs for teachers, and workers for school kids I was also leading the establishment of our Centre for Positive Psychology, a dedicated facility that was a first for Australia, for the university, and for me Marty and I were talking about how effective school systems could be for introducing positive psychology to children so kids could do better in school, feel better about themselves, and become adults who will shape a society empowered by positive psychology But as a psychologist and parent of two children, I knew that, in the infinite ways parents connect with children every day, families are by far the most powerful positive psychology delivery system of all The question was how to reach them Our conversation went something like this Me Its great that were doing this in schools But what happens when kids go home Im using a strength based approach with my kids, and Ive seen the benefits Someone should do the research that would inform parents about this Marty Why dont you do it Me But Im an organizational psychologist, not a parenting expert Marty Youre raising your children this way, youre a qualified psychologist, and youre working with kids in schools So why not you I think thats when I suddenly noticed that my wineglass needed a refill Despite initially avoiding Martys question, it followed me all the way home on the thirty hour flight to Melbourne Why not me Maybe I could do it Maybe I should do it If I do it, Ill be helping a lot of parents and kids By the time the plane landed, I knew that bringing strength principles into families lives was something I had to do Parents 24 7 CEOs of Our Kids Lives These days I run strength based workshops for schools, workplaces, and parents around the world Ive found that no matter what country, continent, or culture theyre from, two things unite all parents the desire to help their children flourish and a sense of inadequacy for this task Parenting can feel overwhelming Were the CEOs of our childrens lives, responsible for all the different departments cognitive, physical, social, emotional, moral, sexual, spiritual, cultural, and educational The buck starts and stops with us Parents today have a lot to worry about My parents didnt have to think about screen time, cyberbullying, or sexting Expectations of parents are growing, too Were raising kids in an era ruthlessly focused on grades, college admission, earning potential, and social acceptance There also seems to be less and less consensusand scrutinyon the right way to parent Were bombarded by conflicting approaches to raising good, successful kids It can lead to anxiety about whether were doing whats best for our child We may feel so pressured to help our children grow into the person society says they should be that we may not be allowing them to grow into the person they actually are I know these pressures well It takes all my confidence to tell other parents that I would rather let Nick and Emily play than provide them extra academic tutoring to pump up their grades Am I putting them at a disadvantage While there are opportunities like this than ever for our children, they come with competition and incessant chatter about how to help our child get ahead How do we know what is the best approach Based on my psychological research on well being my work with schools, workplaces, and parents and my own experience as a parent I think the best approach is one that supports your childs ability for self development, so that over time your child has the tools to take on the mantle of CEO This approach is rooted in positive psychology and provides a child with two vital psychological tools 1 Optimism the force that motivates your child to create a positive future for herself 2 Resilience your childs capacity to bounce back when life throws a curve ball You may be thinking, That sounds great in theory, but how do I help my child acquire and use these tools Why Focusing on Strengths Makes Sense Today Our quest to define and live the good life goes back to the ancient philosophers, but only in recent decades have we started examining the question scientifically The strength based approach gives us the power to live the good life by drawing on our most abundant inner resources When we use it with our children, they internalize the idea that they have strengths, and they learn to use them to take charge of their life Why, then, do we tend to focus on the negative As many parents confide to me I love my kid, but I keep criticizing him Whats going on I have two words for you old wiring Our brains were shaped by the rigors of survival into becoming brilliant pattern detectors For most of our evolution, weve survived by quickly alerting to disruptions in the patterns of daily life as clues to possible danger or to weaknesses that put us at a disadvantage That unusual movement in the grass might be a lurking predator That one unsmiling face around the tribal campfire might be an enemy Our inability to run as fast as the others might mean well be left behind when fleeing danger and so on This primeval tendency to zoom in on whats off helped us size up our chances for survival and decide whether our world might be about to turn upside down This negative bias can be hugely helpful when your lifes at stake But most of us dont face such extremes For the situations we encounter todaywhich usually demand complex reasoning and problem solving, sophisticated cooperation and communication, reserves of persistence, or expert facility in a specific skillthe negative bias can put us at a disadvantage because it blinds us to opportunities, keeps us from seeing the larger picture, and bars access to the expansive thinking that unlocks innovation, collaboration, adaptability, growth, success, and fulfillment Attention on the negative helped us survive Attention on the positive helps us thrive Three decades of research clearly shows the advantages of taking a strength based approach for children and adults alike, including greater levels of happiness and engagement at school smoother transitions from kindergarten to elementary school and from elementary to middle school higher levels of academic achievement as found in high school and college students greater levels of happiness at work greater likelihood of staying at work better work performance greater likelihood of staying married and being happy in your marriage higher levels of physical fitness and of engaging in healthy behaviors e.g., healthy eating, visiting the doctor better recovery after illness increased levels of life satisfaction and self esteem reduced risk of depression enhanced ability to cope with stress and adversityWaters comes off as a thoughtful parenting realistsupporting her ideas with a mix of parental anecdotes and pointers to psychological research Publishers Weekly As parents, we often obsess about fixing our childrens weaknesses and neglect the importance of developing their strengths This book is full of concrete ideas on how to change that Adam Grant, PhD, New York Timesbestselling author of Originals and Give and Take Practical tips for parents from the wise and wonderful Lea Waters So many parents, including me, struggle to translate scientific research into real world strategies This terrific book not only helps us understand ourselves and our children better but also makes that understanding actionable Angela Duckworth, PhD, author of the New York Timesbestseller Grit The Strength Switch gives parents hope that they can build their childrens creativity By sharing parts of her own story of overcoming hardship, and presenting the latest science of positive psychology, Dr Waters not only inspires parents to bring out the best in their children, but she inspires us all to be the best version of ourselves A wise and warm book Scott Barry Kaufman, PhD, co author of Wired to Create Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind Lea Waters points to a needed shift in the way we are parenting our children and teenagers The Strength Switch rejects the current fad that drowns children in self esteem and replaces it with research based practices to help parents identify and develop their childrens best qualities Inspiring and timely Robert Biswas Diener, PhD, author of The Upside of Your Dark Side This book will help you do something groundbreaking for your childrenshift your view to see their best and help them develop their unique strengths Follow the wisdom here and you will bring deep, lasting benefit to not only your child but yourself Thanks to Dr Lea Waters, strengths based parenting has arrived Ryan M Niemiec, PsyD, author of Character Strengths Interventions Lea Waterss expertise, hope, and heart shine through the pages of The Strength Switch She deftly draws on the science of positive emotions to help readers appreciate the vital role positivity plays in moving through hard times This book will be a game changer for unlocking your childs potential Barbara L Fredrickson, PhD, author of Positivity and Love 2.0 The Strength Switch: How The New Science of Strength-Based Parenting Can Help Your Child and Your Teen to Flourish

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  • The Strength Switch: How The New Science of Strength-Based Parenting Can Help Your Child and Your Teen to Flourish

  • Lea Waters
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  • 17 March 2017

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